danivon wrote:I'm not going to respond to Doctor Fate when he's being like that.
Hmm, I guess I'm not supposed to respond when you say:
Oh well, a lack of curiosity is just something to live with, I guess.
After all, I had the temerity to respond in the negative when you asked:
Yet some people work hard and do not succeed. Ever wondered why?
How rude of me.
All I said was I've seen it. Let's see how you respond to my years of personal experience working with tens of thousands of people in poverty:
So, a great start in life - rich parents who send you to a good private school and set up a trust fund, and have friends who are looking for 'bright young things' as you get out of college - is not a guarantee. But it gives one a greater probability of success, and makes it likely that one does not need to work as hard to achieve a lot.
Similarly, a really bad start - maybe only one parent, who's got no job, a low income and no assets, perhaps a substance problem - doesn't guarantee failure. But it does make it more probable and means that to achieve it's going to take more hard work.
It seems that you, like DF are assuming that I am talking about equality of outcomes, even though I'm talking about differences in opportunity. Even though I've explicity said I'm not alraedy and tried to explain the difference.
Let's see . . . paragraph 1 is a stereotype, paragraph two is a stereotype, and paragraph 3 is a "re" explanation of what you've not explained previously.
bbauska wrote:Why do some, who have wealth to begin with, falter and have adversity? Could it be for the same reasons?
It happens. It could also be very bad luck. But how often does it happen, and how often can people who start out wealthy coast along and do 'just enough' to remain comfortable?
Do you know?
Perhaps some could consider that it is just something that happens (either way). Why do you think some people do not achieve, after there is so much that has been given to them, Danivon?
It is something that happens, sure. But it seems you are noticing that some people get given a lot. Does everyone get the same start in life? Do they all get the same 'so much' given to them? Do you think that this might also affect their life chances?
It could. However, I would like to offer one more thing that absolutely does: two good parents. Very few people I have met, whether in jail or in some other sad situation, had two parents who cared about them and were involved in their lives.
You can't legislate that.
One other factor: character. Some people get knocked down and don't get back up. Others get knocked down many times and never stop getting up.
You can't legislate that either.
There are no guarantees in life. There just isn't. Providing EVERYTHING will not guarantee prosperity.
I know that. I'm not talking about guarantees. I'm talking about chances - probabilities - opportunities.
There is nothing in my life that could not be duplicated by anyone on the lower end of the spectrum. I was so poor when I graduated high school that I was eligible for a massive bit of student aid. It didn't help. I was not ready for college. After the Army, when I had to pay for college, things changed.
I am not unique in the sense of my opportunities. That's why this whole conversation bothers me so. There is nothing I was given by the government. There is nothing any rich person gave me. I was not advantaged in any measurable sense. I grew up in a single-parent household.
I could go on and on, but my point remains: anyone COULD do what I've done. They choose NOT to do that. That is not my fault.
I'm not advocating total equality, or giving everyone 'EVERYTHING', bbauska. I'm saying that you take it for granted that your society (as my society) give equality of opportunity. Mainly because your entire system keeps repeating the message.
Or, because it is true.
We were your castoffs. You had a stratified class system. We had far more mobility. We still do. It's not a legend. I see it everyday.
Probably because you have worked hard to improve your lot, and are more comfortable than your family was when you were a kid, and so your experience gives you a subjective bias to think that's how it works.
I would love for Brad to answer. I'm sure he took a unique path, unavailable to anyone else.
But as we know, sometimes things 'just happen' and even hard working folk who aren't (as in DF's stereotypes) feckless or lazy fail through no fault of their own.
Now, it is true that "things happen." It is also true that you were guilty of stereotyping (see above). I have actual life experience with tens of thousands on the bottom end of the economic and social ledger--do you? Do you spend all your time surrounded by them? I did for more than 20 years.
Please, do tell us your expertise.
You know, they get ill and find that they health insurance doesn't cover them fully. Or they have a new boss who sacks them just as a recession starts. Or they have a business but the banks just refuse to extend credit to get them over a bad patch because, you know, things changed in 2008 and it goes bust.
And, what of those for whom none of your scenarios is true? You are wringing your hands over a sliver of the population. I am certain a far higher percentage have sabotaged their own chances in life and/or stopped trying to improve them. I know many of them.
Surely we've seen this. Surely we've had friends or acquaintances who have worked hard just to tread water?
Yes, but these are historically bad times. You are talking about a relative handful of folks when there are myriads who were impoverished before the downturn and will be impoverished after the recovery (whenever it actually arrives).
Stop lecturing about stereotypes when it's all that you've got, or better yet, put forth your expertise in dealing with the downtrodden.