bbauska wrote:Another wonderful question. You are two for two!
I hate when people expect to have freedom of speech and thought, but do not want others to have it. It is just a matter of truth. Hypocrisy just bugs the daylights out of me.
I don't see that you actually have demonstrated that this is what is going on here. I'll explain under your latest attempts...
If the actual standards were followed, I would have been fine. EXAMPLE: Lesbian couple buys rings and find out jeweler doesn't agree with them. Rather than get upset, they are happy with a fine quality ring, and just decide to let the jeweler have their opinion.
So should the real couple not think/feel as they wish to? Should they not express their feelings?
No law is broken, no discrimination occurred, but the couple expects to have money refunded. Why? What act did the jeweler commit the warrants a refund?
They have "asked" for a refund. That doesn't mean they necessarily "expect" one.
I don't know what the interactions were between the couple and the jewellers (any more than you do), but perhaps they feel betrayed - perhaps the jewellers expressed an interest in their upcoming ceremony and suggested support to their faces. Perhaps they - like you - dislike hypocrisy.
It should not ever get to this point where someone cannot have their own opinion, especially when they want to have their opinions respected, as well. The jeweler is not expecting the couple to support his view any more than the couple should expect the jeweler to support their view. If they choose to not support his business for this that is fine. Just like the jeweler should be allowed to not purchase anything at a shop that supports gay marriage if that is the desire.
And they want to retroactively do that, now that they know the jeweller's opinion. They want to be able to undo their support for the shop.
And there's nothing to force you, or the jewellers to shop in a place that displays the rainbow flag, if that's what you want. Please demonstrate how this lesbian couple are forcing the jewellers, or anyone else, to buy from a shop that supports gay marriage. Otherwise, don't use that as part of the argument - it's irrelevant.
But what you seem to be saying is that they
should not express their opinion - they should be "happy" with the jewellery, and not express how they feel about the message in the counter window. They should not even
ask for a refund, as that is apparently the same as removing the rights of the jewellers to express themselves, and no-one should express their opinions about it if they disagree with the jewellers - I would agree that people who respond rudely or aggressively should not do so, but polite disagreement should be fine on all sides, right?
Otherwise, here's what I see:
Some of society has an idea. They support gay marriage. They express that opinion, and go as far as to lobby to change the law to allow it. All legal, and within their rights.
Jewellers dislike that idea. They believe gay marriage undermines "traditional" marriage and is against the will of their deity. Jewellers express opinion. All legal, and within their rights
Lesbian couple support gay marriage, and dislike the ideas of those who oppose it. They believe expressing that idea in the business environment is an attack on them, as a gay couple who are patrons, and they want a refund. Lesbian couple express opinion.
Now, here's the thing. You think the lesbians are being hypocritical. Why? because in your opinion they should not do what they have done as it impinges on the rights of the jeweller. But does it? All they have done is to have their own thoughts and beliefs, and express them. They have not brought the law in. They have not stopped the jewellers from expressing any opinion. They have expressed it fairly publicly, and others have also expressed opinions.
And here's the thing: You are doing just what they are doing!
You are saying that the lesbians should:
1) not think as they do - they should not feel hurt, or think they deserve a refund.
2) not speak as they do - they should not react to the jewellers' disagreement with them, even though the jeweller is apparently perfectly entitled to express their disagreement.
Indeed, just as they are using labels that are negative - "discrimination", so are you - "hypocrisy".
The problem I have, is that this means you are being a tad hypocritical yourself:
You want them to not do something that
you yourself are doing when you say that they should not do it.
Ah, you say, but you are not using the force of law to impose on them, you are just expressing disagreement.
Well, snap.
Neither the couple or the jeweler should be prohibited from shopping where they want anymore than they should be forced to shop where someone else wants.
Who is doing the prohibiting?
Again, either show what the relevance of this is (being prohibited from, or forced into, shopping from a place) to the
actual situation, or accept my freely expressed opinion that it is a ridiculous angle to bring up.
In summary:
They are not the hypocrites.